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Unhealthy Red Flags in Relationships

February 18, 2019 3:10 pm | Published by

Interview with Saltzer Medical Group’s Dr. Megan Kasper and 94.9 The River’s Debbie Courson

Dr Kasper talks with Debbie Courson about red flags or signs of a unhealthy relationship. How do you know if you are in an unhealthy relationship? Sometime the red flags can be subtle while other times they are obvious. Here is a list of red flags to look out for to help you gauge if you are in a toxic relationship or not.

  • Not respecting each other’s personal boundaries/limits
  • Feeling afraid or unsafe
  • Feeling unworthy or undeserving of having needs or wants met
  • Withholding resources from one another to maintain a sense of power and control
  • Passive or aggressive communication
  • Yelling, name calling, destroying property or hurting pets
  • On person has most of the power over the two of you
  • Possessiveness and jealousy

The spectrum of abuse is broad and depending on where you find yourself within it can vary your approach to resolve. In some situations leaving the relationship might be best were other approaches require open communication with your partner.

Talk with your Healthcare Provider

A fundamental role for healthcare providers is to assess the safety of a survivor or victim and help him or her stay out of danger. Your healthcare provider may guide you through a danger assessment to determine what kind of help you may need. See previous post for an example of a danger assessment.

The health care provider should respect the survivor’s ability to identify his or her own safety risks as well as possible strategies for mitigating those risks.  Where danger to children is involved, the health care provider should follow facility and national protocols on their protection.

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Call 911 if you are in immediate danger.

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This post was written by Saltzer Health